For most brides, not having their parents in attendance for their ‘special day’ would be devastating.
For Alyssa Pearce, not having her parents in attendance was the only way.
She sent her parents an anti-invite disguised as a formal wedding invitation. The anti-invite went viral after she shared her story on Reddit.
Alyssa says that her family drove her to run away from home at the age of 16 after years of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. Despite the many years of drama that followed, the 23-year-old hadn’t had any direct contact with her parents in seven years.
She wrote in her Reddit post:
‘It’s the first time I’ve contacted them of my own accord. My grandparents keep pushing me to meet up with them and play happy families.
‘It’s been seven years since I ran away and I’ve reluctantly met up with them maybe half a dozen times.’
After being contacted by Femail, Alyssa exclusively revealed that after months of back and forth discussions with other family members on whether or not to invite her parents, she ‘snapped.’
‘I went home and wrote my parents the de-invitation. I opened up a word document, found the nicest calligraphy font I could, loaded up the printer with some of the lovely parchment paper left over from the other invitations, and wrote,’ she said.
‘I then found a nice matching envelope, addressed it with a fancy gold pen, and posted it. I mean, if you’re going to send someone a memorable “stuff you”, you may as well go all-out.
‘Writing and sending that letter made me feel so much better about all the stress I’d been under. Not only had I refused to allow myself to be bullied into something I didn’t want, but I also took a stand.
‘While it may have been childish and immature, it made me feel as if I’d taken back power from them.’
The scathing de-invitation read:
‘Together with our friends and family, Alex and Alyssa, would like to invite you to suck it and bask in our happiness, your bitterness and our mutual irritation at each other’s existence… As we completely ignore yours and celebrate our marriage without you.
‘There will be a lovely ceremony, followed by cake, food and general merriment.
‘And you’re not invited to any of it. Because f*** you that’s why.’
Ouch. What do you think of Alyssa’s letter to her parents? Do you think it was too harsh — or do you not blame her for wanting to take control of her special day?