Ciara and Russell Wilson seem to have everything going for them but it wasn’t always easy dealing with the past. Talking with GQ Magazine, the couple discuss dealing with Ciara’s ex Future and his toxic behavior.
When Ciara and Wilson first met, in 2015, Ciara was in the middle of what was reportedly an ugly custody battle with her former partner. The attention had grown so unrelenting that on Wilson and Ciara’s first date, the two were forced to drive around Los Angeles until they finally found a place, in the Georgian Hotel, uncrowded enough that they could sit and talk without being photographed. (Wilson went in ahead of Ciara and had them dim the lights.) This would be their first, and more or less last, moment of anonymity. When the two of them married, a little over a year later, Wilson instantly became one of the more famous stepfathers in the country.
“When I got to meet Future, he was young,” Wilson says of his then nine-month-old stepson. “And the reality was that for me it was a blessing and an opportunity to really hopefully be there for him every day and try to care for him in a way that was important for me, that I always wanted someone to do for me. Like my dad did for me. And so I think the greatest thing that I’ve ever learned in life is probably in that relationship with Future, because the reality of being a stepparent is that biologically they’re not necessarily yours, but the reality is that you have to love them as if they are. They’re your own blood in a way. You get to love them that way. And I think every kid deserves that and needs that and yearns for that.”
At the time, the elder Future made no secret of his displeasure at the arrangement. It was an early test of a couple who seemed to aspire to perfection, and they responded, basically, by ignoring it. Did Future’s public toxicity make things hard for them?
“I don’t think anybody made it hard,” Wilson says. “I think it was easy for us. I think it was about us. It wasn’t about anything else. It was about how we were going to love, and for me it was easy. It was easy to love. It’s easy to love C—every day I get to love her and take care of her and our kids is the greatest gift I have. So I cherish that every day.”
“And I will also say,” Ciara says, “from day one we’ve been living life for us. Russ—I mean, he did talk about, you know, how he feels and this passion from a father’s perspective, but what’s always been beautiful about Russ is just to see him from day one, excitingly jumping in and changing diapers.”
She says, “He’s obviously really beautiful to me in every way, but the father in him is by far one of the things that makes him the most sexy to me. Hot. To me it’s hot.”
Russell is a class act. Ciara got herself a good one!