Dear B. Scott,

I didn’t know how to send you something, so I decided to send you and email. I need advice, I really like this guy and I have serious feelings for him, but I can’t tell if it’s just lust or the sex talking. I’ve known him for three years now and we’ve had sex multiple times. I think that I care about him and everything, but sometimes I don’t think he feels the same. CONTINUE READING

Hello, B! As i write you this issue, my palms are beginning to sweat and i can hear my heart beat in my ear. Well, I’m 17-yrs old and i am a senior in high school. To get to the point i have a friend of the opposite sex well more then a friend, a best friend, we’ve been friends for over 5 years and in the last year someone of the same sex has come into my life and has made it worthwile. My bestfriend hates it with a passion sooo, CONTINUE READING

Hi B. Scott

I was watching your videos on grieving the loss of your sister. I had seen them before but this time I sought them out in hopes to draw some strength. I just lost my big brother two weeks ago, and I am just beside myself. What hurts the most is that he was so far away when it happened (he was living in San Fran) and he passed away in his sleep. We hadn’t seen him since February, but talked to him on the phone or email. We flew him back to Boston and had our service for him this past Wednesday. And even though in all logic I know that he is in a better place, I am having such a hard time accepting the fairness of it. He was my heart, and I did a speech for him at the funeral, which was supposed to be cathartic, but I am just so devastated, and I don’t know where to begin to put the pieces back together. any advice on how to start?

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Hi B. Scott!!!

First and foremost let me say that you are amazing and absolutely stunning. My friends and I marvel at your words of wisdom and beauty all the time!!! Well, let me get to the meat of my issue and the reason I’m writing. So I’m very young in fact I’m only a junior in college. I consider myself to be a bright girl with a bright future and just like any bright girl I have a dim boy who I constantly allow to reduce me down to a mere dun-dun-dunt. The story goes like this…we were damn near best friends towards the end of my freshman year and extremely close towards the beginning of my sophomore year and his senior year. We talked for hours on end about any and everything and never had the same conversation twice. I told him once that i liked him and he respectfully and tactfully declined. He then got a girlfriend. CONTINUE READING

Hey B. Scott,

I’m not sure if you ever have time to check your email but I’m actually desperate for your advice. I just recently broke up with this guy I had been best friends with for 6 years ad dating for 4 years. To give you a lil history, we met long distance even though we were originally were from the same place. We hit it off and became inseperable, talking everyday at least 3-4 X. I was a good challenge for him because he wasn’t used to such an ambitious going all over the world woman who was going to be long distance, tell him no to sex, and challenge him to be his best. We’ve broken up twice before–1)he ignored me for a week and I had to chase him down for him to tell me some stuff about him not being sure if he was ready for a commitment and he thought he was bisexual 2)he couldn’t handle long distance (thru txt message) 3) this last final time he stated that we needed to part so we could work on ourselves to eventually come back together. (thru txt message)

So I’ve been up here thinking that basically we were taking a break to better ourselves but I find out recently of his claims to have fallen out of love with me because our differences were more than our similarities and he felt I in a diff league he just didnt feel like trying to reach. he is talking to this other female who is 26, uneducated, on food stamps, has 2 kids, and just got out of an abusive relationship. and she has been contacting me about how i need to let go and go cry somewhere so she and her new man can continue in peace…she has been calling me out my name….and he has continued to be cold with me…not showing any signs of wanting to fight for me for friendship or relationship.i have ever been so hurt bscott…ive been fighting for this man for 6 years and he feels like he owes me nothing. I’ve been so depressed thinking suicidal and homicidal thoughts….just dont want to be this obsessive, depressed, submissive girl who cant move on with her life. Can you please help me? I know I deserve better and God has a plan for me but right now I just can’t figure out how to let go of him without constantly calling, txtig, and fbooking him. and then its just making it worse with the girl contacting me and trying to publicly humiliate me….im in the dumps. please help me get out.

Love,
A black female who deserves so much better in life

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Okay Love Muffins, as we know there is no guidebook to this dating game. But there are some things that you think would be obvious, however, some people just don’t get it! It’s not that they’re intentionally trying to turn you off, but certain conversation topics are a certified no-no! The no-no of which I speak is the ex. Of course we have been in relationships before but that should not be discussed more than briefly. What it does is send red flags that you are not over your last significant other and that you maybe dating prematurely. Love muffins, if you hear these opening statements or use them yourself, then you should really take some time and figure out whether or not you are ready to date! CONTINUE READING