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Dear B,
I was in a 6 year relationship with a wonderful man until it was ended because he went out of state for college…that was 2 years ago. I tried to get on with my life and try to get back into the dating scene when I met someone who woo’d me and wow’d me right into the bed only to leave me months later. I became pregnant with this guy’s kid and he basically bailed out on me…I’m getting to the point bare with me love
While I was in the hospital giving birth, my boyfriend for 6 years came to visit me and stayed by my side the majority of the night and when he left, he hugged me and kissed me on the cheek…I SO didn’t want to let go… where as the baby’s daddy (father isn’t the term I want to use…shows too much respect) came to see the baby the day before discharge and was only there for an hour before coming up with some ” I need to go check on my mom” excuse. It hurt my feelings a bit because he’s lied to me before…now this.
My situation is, since the visit to the hospital, my old feelings for my ex is starting to resurface and I find myself looking at old high school photos and longing to get back together with him. I would love to pursue it, but I don’t want him to think I’m some desperate woman who wants him to play the role of the father figure for the moment. I know that right now, my main focus should be on my baby and not trying to satisfy my own needs (sorry for sounding selfish) Seeing the fact that It was he that broke up with me, I didn’t want to come to him but have him approach me (again, I didn’t want him to think I was desperate)…does that make sense?
Any advice would be appreciated
~J
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