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Ask B. Scott – Can I get Over him Cheating?

keyakay — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:12:35 +0000

Hey B.Scott Hunny!!!!!

OMG I watch all your videos and I love you!!!!!!! But I see that you keep it real so im going to come to you with this. I am in a 3 year and some change relationship and about a year ago my boyfriend cheated on me…and he admitted to it. So because of his honesty(...) Continue Reading →.

Ask B. Scott: I’m a Confused Lover

keyakay — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 23:29:36 +0000

Dear B. Scott,

I didn’t know how to send you something, so I decided to send you and email. I need advice, I really like this guy and I have serious feelings for him, but I can’t tell if it’s just lust or the sex talking. I’ve known him for three years now and we’ve had sex multiple times. I think that I care about him and everything, but sometimes I don’t think he feels the same.(...) Continue Reading →.

Ask B. Scott: Did I Lose My Best Friend?

keyakay — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 23:12:15 +0000

Hello, B! As i write you this issue, my palms are beginning to sweat and i can hear my heart beat in my ear. Well, I’m 17-yrs old and i am a senior in high school. To get to the point i have a friend of the opposite sex well more then a friend, a best friend, we’ve been friends for over 5 years and in the last year someone of the same sex has come into my life and has made it worthwile. My bestfriend hates it with a passion sooo,(...) Continue Reading →.

Ask B. Scott – How do I Grieve the Loss of my Brother?

keyakay — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 23:20:24 +0000

Hi B. Scott

I was watching your videos on grieving the loss of your sister. I had seen them before but this time I sought them out in hopes to draw some strength. I just lost my big brother two weeks ago, and I am just beside myself. What hurts the most is that he was so far away when it happened (he was living in San Fran) and he passed away in his sleep. We hadn’t seen him since February, but talked to him on the phone or email. We flew him back to Boston and had our service for him this past Wednesday. And even though in all logic I know that he is in a better place, I am having such a hard time accepting the fairness of it. He was my heart, and I did a speech for him at the funeral, which was supposed to be cathartic, but I am just so devastated, and I don’t know where to begin to put the pieces back together. any advice on how to start?

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Ask B Scott: I Can’t Get Over This Guy

keyakay — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 22:49:10 +0000

Hi B. Scott!!!

First and foremost let me say that you are amazing and absolutely stunning. My friends and I marvel at your words of wisdom and beauty all the time!!! Well, let me get to the meat of my issue and the reason I’m writing. So I’m very young in fact I’m only a junior in college. I consider myself to be a bright girl with a bright future and just like any bright girl I have a dim boy who I constantly allow to reduce me down to a mere dun-dun-dunt. The story goes like this…we were damn near best friends towards the end of my freshman year and extremely close towards the beginning of my sophomore year and his senior year. We talked for hours on end about any and everything and never had the same conversation twice. I told him once that i liked him and he respectfully and tactfully declined. He then got a girlfriend.(...) Continue Reading →.

Ask B. Scott: I’m Having Crazy Thoughts Behind This Break-Up

keyakay — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 01:42:57 +0000

Hey B. Scott,

I’m not sure if you ever have time to check your email but I’m actually desperate for your advice. I just recently broke up with this guy I had been best friends with for 6 years ad dating for 4 years. To give you a lil history, we met long distance even though we were originally were from the same place. We hit it off and became inseperable, talking everyday at least 3-4 X. I was a good challenge for him because he wasn’t used to such an ambitious going all over the world woman who was going to be long distance, tell him no to sex, and challenge him to be his best. We’ve broken up twice before–1)he ignored me for a week and I had to chase him down for him to tell me some stuff about him not being sure if he was ready for a commitment and he thought he was bisexual 2)he couldn’t handle long distance (thru txt message) 3) this last final time he stated that we needed to part so we could work on ourselves to eventually come back together. (thru txt message)

So I’ve been up here thinking that basically we were taking a break to better ourselves but I find out recently of his claims to have fallen out of love with me because our differences were more than our similarities and he felt I in a diff league he just didnt feel like trying to reach. he is talking to this other female who is 26, uneducated, on food stamps, has 2 kids, and just got out of an abusive relationship. and she has been contacting me about how i need to let go and go cry somewhere so she and her new man can continue in peace…she has been calling me out my name….and he has continued to be cold with me…not showing any signs of wanting to fight for me for friendship or relationship.i have ever been so hurt bscott…ive been fighting for this man for 6 years and he feels like he owes me nothing. I’ve been so depressed thinking suicidal and homicidal thoughts….just dont want to be this obsessive, depressed, submissive girl who cant move on with her life. Can you please help me? I know I deserve better and God has a plan for me but right now I just can’t figure out how to let go of him without constantly calling, txtig, and fbooking him. and then its just making it worse with the girl contacting me and trying to publicly humiliate me….im in the dumps. please help me get out.

Love,
A black female who deserves so much better in life

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Give Your Ex The Axe

keyakay — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 22:17:13 +0000

Okay Love Muffins, as we know there is no guidebook to this dating game. But there are some things that you think would be obvious, however, some people just don’t get it! It’s not that they’re intentionally trying to turn you off, but certain conversation topics are a certified no-no! The no-no of which I speak is the ex. Of course we have been in relationships before but that should not be discussed more than briefly. What it does is send red flags that you are not over your last significant other and that you maybe dating prematurely. Love muffins, if you hear these opening statements or use them yourself, then you should really take some time and figure out whether or not you are ready to date!(...) Continue Reading →.

Ask B. Scott – I Need a Few Words of Encouragement

keyakay — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:20:15 +0000

Dear Supreme Love Muffin,

I follow you on Twitter and you’ve always put a smile on my face in everything you do. And I need a few words of encouragement now, more than ever. I’ve always given my mom no respect because she chooses drugs over her kids and lost us in a custody battle -me and my 3 younger brothers- due to heavy drug abuse. And I love her so much but I’ve never showed her cause I wanted her to hurt as we were hurting. But earlier this week, she came to me and informed me that she he has less than a month to live. I’m so hurt my heart is so heavy. What advice do you have for me?
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Ask B. Scott – My Friend’s Husband Constantly Hits on Me

keyakay — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:46:03 +0000

Hey B,

First off I love you and always read all the advice you give, but as of recently I’ve found myself in a pickle of my own. My husband and I have a couple friend, as in friends who are also married. About a month ago my husband deployed to Afghanistan, and being the supportive friend she is, my female friend often invites me over for dinner or when her and her husband go to a movie asks me along so I’m not sitting home alone on the weekend. We live overseas so I have no family nearby. Here is the problem. Her husband is making passes at me. Whenever she leaves the room he says how he is into me and how his wife doesn’t sleep with him anymore. He has even grabbed my butt!

Of course I told him to stop and I told him I wasn’t buyin what he was sellin. I talked to my husband about it (who was peeved) but he thinks I should just not say anything. My husband says my girlfriend will never believe me anyway, and that it would just end our friendship. But things are so awkward. I hate to turn her down all the time now when she invites me to do things, especailly when its so obvious I’m avoiding her….well him. I also feel guilty because if the tables were turned I absolutely would want to know if my husband was making advances on one of my friends. But what if my husband is right and opening my mouth will only make things worse? What do you think? To speak or not to speak?

Sincerely,
On the fence
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Ask B. Scott – Can I have my cake and eat it too?

keyakay — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:51:39 +0000

Question:

I’ve been in love with 2 men and I love them with all my heart. But I also know I can’t have my cake and eat it too even though I want to have my cake and eat it up too. They both love me, and ive try to tell them both that I can only be with one yes both of them know about each other and both tell me all the time that I have to choose one or loose one of them but I can’t let them go what should I do about this?

Love,
Havin’ the cake, and eatin’ it too
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Ask B. Scott – I’m Lost and Confused

keyakay — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 22:02:45 +0000

Question:

Dear B. Scott,

I’m so lost and confused…I am boy crazy, whenever I get around a guy who shows me attention and I also give attention back I just go crazy. I mean I may want to take it slow and try to build a relationship, but something happens when we get alone and we may go from just talking, to kissing, to OTHER activities. I don’t even understand how or why this happens, I just know that after all is said and done I feel dirty and feel like trash…and I recently did this and my school is small so I constantly see this person….and I don’t know how I can take my actions back or make them right…because I actually liked this person…and I just messed everything up. Please, please help me, I don’t know what triggers this behavior or how to stop! I’m lost and confused and I know that my parents and family would not be proud of my actions…

Thanks,
Lost and Confused
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Ask B. Scott: Why Doesn’t He Want To Meet My Family?

keyakay — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 22:20:29 +0000

Question:

Dear B. Scott,

I really like this guy and he likes me too. We met June 28th and we started going out July 28th. so the 28th of this month would make it a month for us. He’s my first real boyfriend but, my mom doesn’t know she just think he is my friend. She said if he really likes me he would come over and meet my family first and take the time to get to know them. I’ve talked to him about this and he said he’s scared my family won’t like him. On the weekends he goes to his cousin house and wants me to come and see him. I live fifteen minutes away from his cousin. I figured why he won’t come and see me. I don’t like lying to my mother and us sneaking around is childish in three years I’ll be twenty one. What the best thing i should do and do you think it was too soon for us to start dating. As well he does not text me like he use to is that a sign he’s not into me or might have his feelings hurt. I hope u can answer my question thank you.

Sincerely,
Your love muffin
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Ask B. Scott: Good Man? Check. Good Fun? Well. Good Sex? No. : Where Do You Draw the Line?

keyakay — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 02:46:38 +0000

Question:

Dear B. Scott.

I’m with a great guy. He’s respectful, patient, thoughtful, patient, kind and patient. He’s got me by 7yrs and he’s pretty much gotten into older person chill mode. I’m social, he’s really not. I like to get my diva on and get out, but he’s not always up to accompany me which bums me out. When I glam up, I do it for me and for him. He says his mind just isn’t always on chasing after me like the typical male and I’ve all but fussed him out over it. My friends applaud that we’ve lasted this long, but I understand that nobody is perfect, so work is needed for a relationship to last. Yet after over a year, I’m wondering if our differences could drive a wedge between us. I have faith, cause anybody with his patience is a damn good find. I want this to work, but can being on two social and sexual pages be too much difference for one cohesive union? I love him dearly, he gets me even if he doesn’t agree with me. I know I happened across a great love in him, but I’m tired of denying myself the little fun I’d like to have just cause he’s acting like he’s over the hill already! Make it work or call it done?

Sincerely,
Your love muffin

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5 Ways to Tell A Guy is Digging You

keyakay — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:10:14 +0000

So many of us know this situation all too well, and know how difficult it can be to gauge if the guy you’re into is diggin’ you back. We’re all too familiar with those post-date conversations on the phone reliving every detail asking, “Do you think he’s feelin’ me?” Well, there are ways to tell but we’re often too wrapped up in the moment to read the signs! Deep breathing is a must before, during and after your date to remain composed and alert! Otherwise, you’ll get lost in the flutter of your feelings when you should be thinking, men are thinkers … not feelers. While he may be feeling you, you’ll have to read the signs! But be cool, he may not show all the signs in one night, however, if you know what to look for you’ll notice over time. Now, as a rule, body language speaks louder than words so pay attention to less of what he says and more of what his body is saying! Take a look at these five tips to help you recognize his body talk.(...) Continue Reading →.

Ask B. Scott: Should I stay with someone I love that has anger issues?

B. Scott — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 04:41:30 +0000