Hey love muffins! Today we’re going to kick things up a notch! Of course, it’s that time of year when, in most places, the weather changes, the holidays come around and folks start to boo up and hibernate! Hibernation is a real fancy term for sleeping, but why do that when you can just as easily busy yourself lovin’ on your platinum love muffin? Oh yeah, y’all know what I’m talking about: doing the grown folks.

As a rule, sex with the same person can get boring and dull if you don’t do the things that will keep things fresh! So in light of the holiday and having a few extra days to spend with your boo it’s time to turn the heat up, not just in the kitchen, but in the bedroom…but the kitchen works too! I’ve got 10 tips to add some spice to your love, but we’ll star with the first five! Take a look and try something new!

1.) Set the Mood - before your man gets home or to your place, set the mood. If you’re feeling like a bath, draw the water and make is super bubbly and throw some rose petals in the water. Light some candles and chill a bottle of wine or champagne. He’ll know what’s going on when he gets there, but take it a step further and ask him to join you. Undress him and ask him to undress you! Make it hot!

2.) Catch him by surprise - this is good for the next time you go to his house. Get yourself a lacy teddy in his favorite color to boot with garters and knee highs then pair them up with your hottest pumps! Put it on and cover up with a trench coat only! When you get to him, say, “would you take my coat, please?” Turn your back and let him undrape you. Not only is he surprised, he’s getting the rear view and will probably attack you before he gets the full view!

3.) Be subtle - sometimes less is sexier than all the lingerie and underwear sets you can buy. On one of those nights that seem mundane and monotonous, take a few minutes in the bedroom and throw on his favorite sports tee, or a dress shirt he might have worn that day. Put on some mascara and basic lip gloss and continue on with your nightly routine as if you’re wearing your own clothes. Be nonchalant and aloof, this will spark his imagination and before you know it, you’ll be the feature of the fantasy he’s conjured up for the night!

4.) Be aggressive - sometimes, men just want to lay there and be pleased. This would be good for when he’s laying a round watching TV drifting away to sleep. Just when it’s starting to look like he’s toast for the night, unleash the pick-him-up! Demand that he wakes up because you had plans for him or because he looked so handsome when he was dozing off. Climb on top of him and give him some good chest strokes and grind on him a little bit. But, since you’ve started it, you’re responsible for all the action. Encourage him to relax and that you’re in charge.

5.) Show your fun side - invite your guy over for dinner and ask what he wants you to cook. Be sure you start cooking after he gets there, so while he’s on the way, go ahead and take a shower. He may talk a little trash about you not having things ready for him. Your excuse: “I was in the shower!” A t-shirt and panties (boy shorts) is all you need. Put some music on and start preparing the food in just that t-shirt and panties dance around in the kitchen, on him, and around him! But, be sure to make bending over to look in the oven overly dramatic. You’ll catch him looking so give your cheeks and few good smacks for him, coupled up with a wink and a grin. * If you want to take this a step further, make a rule that he can’t touch you until after dinner*

These tips should make loving your man spicy hot! But, I must encourage everyone to take precautionary measures and always be safe! I hope you have fun with your boos, love muffins! To be continued…