So many of us know this situation all too well, and know how difficult it can be to gauge if the guy you’re into is diggin’ you back. We’re all too familiar with those post-date conversations on the phone reliving every detail asking, “Do you think he’s feelin’ me?” Well, there are ways to tell but we’re often too wrapped up in the moment to read the signs! Deep breathing is a must before, during and after your date to remain composed and alert! Otherwise, you’ll get lost in the flutter of your feelings when you should be thinking, men are thinkers … not feelers. While he may be feeling you, you’ll have to read the signs! But be cool, he may not show all the signs in one night, however, if you know what to look for you’ll notice over time. Now, as a rule, body language speaks louder than words so pay attention to less of what he says and more of what his body is saying! Take a look at these five tips to help you recognize his body talk.

1.) Eye Contact - as the old saying goes “eyes are the gateway to the soul,” and this is so true! It’s easy to tell a man is totally detached if you’re talking about something you feel passionate about and he’s distracted, fidgeting and looking everywhere but in your eyes. He’s not interested, period. But if you’re speaking and he’s giving you eye contact, then he’s connected. Think about it: it’s highly unlikely a man will verbally admit that you have him open, but if he’s staring in your eyes while you speak and allows you to look back, he’s letting you in.

2.) Subtle Touches – if a man is into you, he’ll want to be close. If he’s diggin’ you, he wants to be close enough to you to smell you and catch a caress or two. Some men are the aggressive type and will caress the small of your back, tug at your hips, or give you a solid squeeze. If he’s a shy guy, he may be apprehensive to break the ice so help him out and bat those lashes to let him know you’re with it. If he leans your way or gives you an arm/shoulder graze, he’s saying he’d like to touch you again! If he grabs your hand or moves a stray hair out of your face, he’s paying attention to your every move! So lay it on thick but remain natural and keep breathing!

3.) Innocent Primping - if a guy is totally into himself, then you’ll know the difference between narcissistic grooming and nervous sprucing. If the guy you’re feeling is constantly brushing miniscule lent off his shoulder, adjusting his shirt and playing with his freshly cut hair, he wants to look good for you! He’s trying his hardest to look his best for you, so don’t be surprised if he asks you if he has anything in his teeth! These gestures are simply nervous quircks. On the other hand, if he is detached and seemingly self-absorbed, chances are this guy is vain and has no room for anyone other than himself in his life.

4.) Open Posture – If the two of you are sitting across from each other and he’s hunched over table, he may struggle with revealing his feelings and thoughts physically and verbally. But if a guy sitting across from you is leaning towards you with his shoulders raised and a slight head tilt, he’s unknowingly letting you know that he’s interested in you and what you have to say. If he’s standing across from you and his feet are turned inward or pigeon-toed, then he’s into you.

5.) Facial Expressions - you can always tell how a guy feels by his expression when he first sees you. For example, if he’s picking you up for a date, pay attention to the look on his face. If he raises his eyebrows and has an expression that mirrors surprise, he’s happy to see you and excited about the date. Men don’t like to be rejected, so if he looks relieved, he’s glad you showed up and thrilled about the time he’ll spend with you. By the end of the night, if he looks like he’s anxious or can’t keep his eyes off you, chances are he’s having troubles keeping his hands off you also. Don’t be too proud to reach for him for hugs, he’ll gladly welcome the invite and who knows what’s next!

These are just a few ways to tell through a man’s body language that he’s feeling you, so pay close attention! But the question is, are YOU sending the body language that says you’re digging him? Stay tuned for part 2!!