Comments on: Ask B. Scott – Can I be upset if my BFF is in love with my former Crush?

By: Lauren

Lauren — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 19:54:48 +0000

you know you didn’t hit off with the guy 100%, but then again, you never got a chance to. Obviously, your friend has known the guy longer, and you were just getting to know him, because SHE introduced you. You feel like you were never given a chance, and that the guy didn’t really want you in the first place. Instead he wanted your friend. So you feel a bit used, and a bit ignored during the whole situation, as if your friend doesn’t remember introducing you two. And the thing is your BF even mentioned he has a girlfriend. Could that be you or someone else? If it’s you, she knows, and it is time to discuss how you feel. If it is someone else, you both need to forget about him, and if she doesn’t, that’s her loss. Anyway, it’s something you have to calmly and respectfully discuss. Do your best.

By: Tanisha

Tanisha — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 02:06:40 +0000

I agree with what everyone else stated! You said that you and the guy didn’t work out, so, are you mad REALLY because you feel like , “Why hook me up with someone you know you like?, OR is it that you don’t want her to work if you and him did not. I would tell her. One of my best friends and I went through this a couple of years ago. It changed our relationship. The only difference was, I used to talk to this guy who I really liked but I knew his girl and he knew my ex-boyfriend. I never went there. However, a couple of years later, she went there and some more! She ended up telling me, cause she tell me everything, but I never looked at her the same. I still lover her to death but it made me not trust her. I couldn’t get but so mad cause we never had a sexual relationship but it was the PRINCIPLE of it. I felt like the joke was on me and everyone else knew it. Needless to say, I don’t talk to him AT ALL, my friend is still my friend, but we don’t hang out like we did back then. Regardless, she still has to be held accountable for her actions.

By: JaiMitch

JaiMitch — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 01:39:05 +0000

I agree with B on this one. Since your friend is the one who introduced you to old boy she probably already had friendship with him as well and sometimes these things happen. I would hope that if your friend knew that you had feelings for this guy she would not be so comfortable coming to you and pouring her heart out about her feelings for him after she and he were together. Bottom line you have to first be honest with yourself and see if your mad because you really had feelings for him or if you are mad that it didn’t work and now you want him because someone else has him. Then you have to be honest with your friend about the way you feel otherwise how your feeling is going to mess up your friendship.

By: Natacha

Natacha — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 23:49:08 +0000

I have been in a situation where my best friend was secretly dating my ex. And I understand why you are upset with your bff. I really don’t know what to tell you. It could be the biggest mistake of your life to tell her how you feel but keeping it to yourself is gonna eat you alive. But seeing as she is your bff, she should be able to handle your true feelings and not hold it against you. Whateva you do….do not refer to her as a “cock hungry whore who has no boundaries”….Name calling can tear friends apart.

By: nicholepatrice

nicholepatrice — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 22:23:18 +0000

Listen never question ur feelings. They are just that. Feelings are not rational logical or sound. If you felt some kind of way its because you should have. I’m going through something similar. I’ve been with my man for years and now my ex bestie is hating come to find out she been liking him all this time. Yea boo you should feel some kind of way. You feel some kind of way…that’s what they hell it is. And I think u should talk 2 her because its not worth ur relationship.