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March 26, 2009 Ask B. Scott: Are You Insecure?
Hello to all my love muffins. Below is the response from yours truly to this week’s Ask B. Scott. Enjoy, and please share your thoughts! xoxo
Question:
B,
Is there anything about yourself that you’re insecure about?
Kellita
B. Scott’s answer after the jump.
Answer:
That’s a good question, love muffin. Thank God I’ve gotten to a place that on a typical day, there aren’t many things I’m insecure about physically. However, I have to admit, I’m insecure when it comes to entering and being involved in relationships. I believe this insecurity stems from trust issues I have with people because of past relationships that were less than savory. I’ve been involved in relationships with men that felt the need to control me or tone me down, most likely because they were envious of how secure I was in my own skin. They saw how confident I was, and wanted to dim my light a bit. I’m not necessarily afraid of someone cheating on me, but more insecure about someone hurting my heart – so I’m careful to protect it.
I think it’s important to identify what you’re insecure about in order to improve yourself and get past obstacles that can hold you back. People make the mistake of jumping from bad relationship to bad relationship, instead of evaluating why things constantly don’t work out, and making corrections.
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Nayoluv
March 26, 2009 at 10:28 am
1st of all OMG at that puppy!!! What a cutie!!
B. I was just telling a friend of mine this. She has been getting dumped by the same guy for the last 10 years. She JUST had her 4th child with him and he dumped her AGAIN. I told her to just stop jumping into ANY relationships until she can get a hold on herself.
I did the same thing and am kinda doing the same thing again. The 1st time I felt the need to stay by myself I thought it would be ok to get a lil hot lovin from time to time. So I did! But what I’ve learned from that is…sex poses as a distraction to your evaluation. You truly need to just STOP all the romantic drama to do a proper evaluation.
So I’ve been flying solo, really solo, for a year now. The time alone not only allowed me to re-evaluate my romantic life, but my WHOLE life. And now I’m the happiest I’ve been in all my life and I’m as single as can be. Now I’m truly ready to take on a new relationship…but I’m in no rush.
Solitude is necessary for a proper evaluation: Imagine you own a doughnut shop and you need to count how many doughnuts you have, but you have customers coming and going taking doughnuts and giving crappy doughnuts back. Wouldn’t it be way easier to close down the shop, count your doughnuts in peace, instead of dealing with a line of demanding customers???
(I worked in a doughnut shop when I was a student
) Hope my analogy made sense!)
Love ya B.!
Tia
March 26, 2009 at 11:07 am
First of all – I love you B. Scott! You are truly an inspiration and don’t let anyone tell you differently. I think your right about facing your insecurities and dealing with them especially when it comes to relationships. You can’t expect someone else to make you into the person you want to be or get rid of your insecurities, you have to deal with them head on and embrace the person you are within. Another person will only enhance your attributes or make them better. I had the same insecurity with someone hurting my heart. I must say God is awesome because I prayed for help and He has truly helped me look at why I was attracted to the same type of people that will hurt me and why I would allow those people to do things to hurt me. I have grown so much and I am very hopeful and there are certain things I won’t allow. In confiding in God, I have gotten beyond those insecurites.
talkto me
March 26, 2009 at 4:42 pm
pup pup is just too cute for me to concentrate on the question, lol!
Goddess999
March 26, 2009 at 6:42 pm
Greetings B. Scott
I want to first tell you how amazing you are and I love your light and positive energy. But please don’t shut your heart down to love the law of attraction is real. We attract our thoughts and actions whether they are positive or negative than we play the blame game(not you B. Scott) but people do this is general. Know that someone will love you for the fantastic person that you are visualize it and feel it and do not doubt it and he will come. Light attracts Light B. Scott please remember that.
Love You
Goddess
Tony
June 14, 2009 at 1:42 pm
I’m trying to lose weight BScott what are some good way’s to eat