Darian Talks About Blacks & Homophobia!

March 15, 2008

“Hey B,

I finally had a chance to check out your new entry on Concrete Loop today and one comment in particular pissed me off so bad I had to do a video response. This video is in defense of you and Black gay men everywhere. Keep living out loud!

Darian Aaron
Clik Magazine, Staff Writer
Living Out Loud with Darian
Black and SGL with No Apologies
loldarian.blogspot.com”

Darian, thank you for your splendiferous video! It really touched me and I couldn’t have said it better myself! If you want to read the comments Darian was referring to on Concreteloop.com click HERE. Double kisses!

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23 Responses to “Darian Talks About Blacks & Homophobia!”

tlt02k on March 15, 2008 at 7:18 am #

i agree with everything that he says!
R.A.S.Berry on March 15, 2008 at 8:26 am #

I am so glad that someone has touched on this subject. I am a black woman who has always said that the black community is more homophobic than others. Alot of our black men has this idea of what a black man should be. They have to be hard, no crying, play sports, and all that other crazy stuff. These black men need to realize that being a man is not just these things. Which mainly mean that the men who think this are not men at all. My son is 18 years old. He is heterosexual, but he have a few friends who are gay or bi. He don’t care. He said that as long as they still respect him he is going to respect them. They still do all the things they always do; camping, football, video games, etc. When he found out they were gay or bi, he talked to me about it and left it at that. I have raised this young man by myself. He is an open-minded beautiful person. Never EVER gets in trouble, thinks about his future, have hobbies and hella talented, lol. He has a very good head on his shoulders…..HE THINKS FOR HIMSELF. He is more of a man than these men who are trying soooo hard to be a man. The community needs to start respecting each other…period. If everyone respects each other, our communities would be better. We need to stop raising our sons with these false definitions of manhood. How do you raise a black man as a “man”, but when he turn 18, 19 years old he ain’t got no job, don’t want a job, not going to school, not thinking about his future, or nothing? Some of these parents (mothers and fathers) are trying to raise these “hard” sons who end up not getting what they REALLY need in order to be a successful man. I don’t mean success as far as a career/money. I mean success as a human being. With that, the other stuff will fall in place. We have to do better. ALL of our communities need to respect eachother. And I also think that the person who anonymously wrote that comment need to look into themselves. Seems like he has a problem with blaming others for his own downfalls. He need to realize that people who think like him are the ones who keep our communities from progressing forward.
Erica Nicole on March 15, 2008 at 8:33 am #

I was so glad he put out the vid response. I even sent him a comment on his YouTube. Kudos to Darian!!
inga on March 15, 2008 at 8:56 am #

I just went on CL to read the comments. smh
There are way too many close minded people in this world. That’s all I have to say.

B. Scott, do you. Continue to do what feels good in your heart. For every person who “hates” you, there are thousands more who love you.
okay on March 15, 2008 at 10:09 am #

Keep doing you B Scott. We love ya! Clicking everyday to hear what you have to say. I respect you and value your opinion. CAN JILL SCOTT PLEASE COME OVER AND SING THAT SONG RIGHT QUICK! Hate on hater!
GianMC on March 15, 2008 at 11:28 am #

I have never visited that site until today (and B, you know I regularly frequent your site). Even if I’m not surprised, I’m absolutely saddened.

It’s no wonder you put that video up about being put down by better. For some reason, I wasn’t feeling your spirit in that video, and I could really tell that you have been affected (in one way or another) by these “eBallers.” Like Darian said, words are powerful - and it’s just saddening how well that asshole articulated his hate.

I almost shed a tear reading that vicious comment. And it’s only because I have so much love for you, that it breaks my heart knowing you’ll have to put up w/ this mess everyday. I honestly don’t know how you do it, but THIS is the main reason why I look up to you: your ability to hold your ground.

You do that flicky flick shit that you do, or whatever it is you do to negate the negativity. And if it ever gets down to it (God forbid), you have my support (as well as many others). Don’t be afraid to lean back on us.

We’re your “love muffins” for a reason. We’ll ALWAYS be here for you.

peace,
Gian
ReinventingBlack on March 15, 2008 at 11:59 am #

Well I feel that B. Scott is above the negativity and the “E-Ballers.” I’ve always thought that when people hate on you there’s something about you they must like and want that they’re lacking within themselves. I think that a lot of people are envious of the fact that B. Scott is comfortable and secure and proud in his own skin. Most people don’t have that unfortunately. The people that comment negatively are the people that come and checkout the site as often as B. Scott’s “Love Muffins.” They say they hate B. Scott yet they are the ones navigating to his website to see what he has to say or going to CL every Friday to see what B. Scott has to say. My thing is if you don’t like something don’t indulge in it. We all have a choice… These people can go to CL and still enjoy it w/o seeing what B. Scott is up to. That said don’t get upset by ignorant people - they need the attention.
NancyVille on March 15, 2008 at 12:18 pm #

I tried to comment on CL, but it kept going to a shoe ad. Perhaps I need to register on CL, I don’t know. Anyway, I am so happy that Darian replied as he did. Now, I can’t identify with any of the people he discusses - I’m glow-in-the-dark white, 57, straight, married and female, so I have not gone through what non-whites and/or gays face every day. It wasn’t until I was in my 20’s that I even had much contact with non-whites other than the Mexican kids who went to my high school, but I didn’t even know any of them because we weren’t in any of the same classes. Working in the real world opened my eyes to the glorious diversity of the human race.

As for the e-ballers, especially the ones who posted on CL, I could perhaps understand their anger if flamboyant males were ALL that were shown on CL, as if there were no other type of black male. But, as part of the vastness of the human experience, B. Scott is an interesting, caring, entertaining and inspiring person who reaches out to all kinds of people.

I would be very sorry to have him silenced in any medium.

My apologies for the double post, but I inadvertently replied under the wrong subject. >duh<
Carmella on March 15, 2008 at 1:24 pm #

I really had to comment on this just now. I visit your site and concrete loop every day, sometimes several times and day and this whole thing really just makes me embarrassed to be black, honestly. Why is it so hard to accept other people’s differences? I really just don’t get it. And if you can’t accept someone for being different, why don’t you just keep your closed minded opinions to yourself in the privacy of your own home? What you or me or Joe or Susie decide to do with our lives is our choice and ours only. Nobody is forcing these people to watch these videos or read these blogs. That’s their CHOICE.

And why is it that every homophobe thinks that gays and lesbians are trying to BE something? Just because I’m attracted to women doesn’t mean I want to be a man. That doesn’t mean my stud/ag/dom friends want to be men. 99% love being women. They love their breasts and vaginae and I’m sure the same goes for gay men. We’re not trying to be anything but ourselves. We’re just trying to live our lives just like everybody else and if you have a problem with it, I suggest you get over it. Because gays and lesbians aren’t going anywhere. Maybe these hateful homophobes have some deep rooted issues that need to deal with…

Double Kisses!
Carmella
Erica Nicole on March 15, 2008 at 1:40 pm #

That IS true, the haters are addicted to his site. They are stupid and nothing but. And whenever I cursed them out and called them all kinds of vulgar names (in English AND in Spanish), they got angry LOL. And that’s EXACTLY what I wanted, to get them angry. But you know what? I’m actually done with them as of today. There will always be haters in this cruel ass world. I’m doing some other short vids tonight ;).
Nikki on March 15, 2008 at 4:22 pm #

Let me make a comment on the cruel people that come on B.Scott’s sites and talk trash about him.

They do this because they have NOTHING better to do. These are the people who have nothing better to do except sit at the computer all day and talk trash about others. They have no social life and no outside life whatsoever so they take it out on the people who are really genuine.

The one thing to really piss these “e-ballers” off is to ignore them. Be like “okay sweetie, love ya too”. Oh my gawd it gets them so irate!!

The funny thing is..these people who talk so badly about B.Scott, are the ones who are CLICKING onto his page, taking TIME out of their life to listen to B.Scott’s video message, and actually SITTING THERE PLOTTING of some “awesome” thing to trash talk to him about.

In reality, they’re just jealous fans!

Love ya B.!
Trish on March 15, 2008 at 4:47 pm #

I have thought for a long time that Black people have made the mistake of looking at the Black community as a collective, and not as individuals. The beauty of being an individual is the colorful differences in each of us.

I cannot stand to hear comments about who makes “US” look bad. I think we need to worry about OURSELVES and the hate, homophobia and negativity that some members of the Black community express on blogs like Concrete Loop.

Other races do not refer to themselves as collectives. White people do not make statements about Richard Simmons, insinuating he’s making them all look bad.

Worry about yourselves CL Bloggers. All of you making hateful remarks about gay men need to examine yourselves, and your contributions to society.

There are many people including myself that LOVES B.Scott. We look forward to seeing his videos and reading his blogs. He makes a lot of us happy through his insightful and positive outlook.

Haters… WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF! Only YOU can make YOU look bad. Do not blame rappers and gay men for your rejection. Blame your own lack of charm, initiative and experience.
tellytellz on March 15, 2008 at 6:17 pm #

im 19, & a straight female from NY & i too have been reading the comments that they leave for ur CL post… these eBallers digust me in every way shape & form..amathankful some1 cud stand up for u via video, he spoke so intelligently that i was proud that he is apart of my race whether he is gay or not… i have been saying the same thing for yrs yes Dorian ‘how can 1 oppressed ppl turn around & oppress another ppl’… 30 yrs ago(&still 2day) ppl said that we were disgusting & were a disgrace & everything that was wrong w/ this country & then as soon as we get a voice instead of uplifting our ppl we turn around & tear down a HUGE portion of our ppl…. i dont understand & i wont try anymore b/c i always say ‘u cant argue logic w/ an illogical person & u cant expect a rational respose from an irrational person… ppl spend soooo much time worrying about others ‘what they do in their own lives’, ‘why they do this’, ‘why they act like that’, they’re wasting thier time & breath on some1 who is so comfortable w/ themselves that they dont give 2 flying fucks what ur opinion about them is… & if he shouldnt be allowed to express himself then WHY ARE YOU??… plz ppl spare us all the bullshit, build u a bridge & GET OVER IT b/c the last time i checked America ‘belongs’ to every1… these hateful ppl are always talking about gays destroying the black community’s image.. who put that bad image on us, white america & now we r tryna break free from yes a bad black perception by showing them that we are not all crackheads, drug dealers & criminals… we wanna show them the truth.. well the truth is that like there are black doctors, lawyers, enterpreneurs, scientists, wonderful, beautiful black ppl… taht list also includes beautiful black gay ppl as well, b/c as opposed to ur illogical thoughts they are NOT seperate from us…. even from when i was a young teen(& no1 call me a baby..lol) till now if im having a conversation comes up about their nog. opinion on gay ppl, i’ll hear them out but if they get even the slightest bit offensive i’ll stop them & ‘ok im a HUUUGE supporter of the gay community, so spare me the bullshit”… ur ‘distaste’ for gays, y u dont like or understand them, but start talkin gsideways about gay ppl & i will stop u dead in ur tracks… i just WILL not tolerate it…if u knew me B u’d understand b/c i am very pro-black(my friends always tell me to get off my soap-box) as young as i am & i love gay ppl, i dont particularly have many gay friends but gay ppl go through the same struggle as we straight black ppl do… i will always love & respect a person who is not afraid to be who they are in a world that condemns us for not conforming…. so once again i applaud u B, & Dorian & every1 else who will be who u are & who will speak out against the misconception of what black ppl are suppost to be… u speak to my soul B i kno u will continue to do u regardless, DOUBLE KISSES, HEARTS & LOVE!!!!
tellytellz on March 15, 2008 at 6:19 pm #

*sry guys i hit send b4 i corrected the typos etc, but i kno u get the gist of what i was tryna say lol….
Erica Nicole on March 15, 2008 at 6:36 pm #

SO!! I just made a vid on E-Ballers (again) on my YouTube pagina (page), only this time I’m putting an end to me dissing them online because it takes up too much of my time just throwing out disses in English and in Spanish to all of the PUTOS (BITCHES) out there. I know I can hurt a hater’s feeling easily and make them angry (I just know how to get under someone’s skin and I loveeeeee that), but its a waste of time. However, I WILL continue to defend B. Scott and people like B. Scott for as long as I am living on planet Earth.

Its a cruel world out there, but I can say that there are very few genuine people like me who do keep it real.
TJ on March 15, 2008 at 7:28 pm #

I never visited or heard of ConcreteLoop until B.Scott. But I read those comments and I was a bit shocked, then I laughed and then I got a bit angry, esp at the post Darian is referring to. I wasn’t able to comment either.

I was upset at how they were saying it was okay to be gay but don’t… (i.e. be flamboyant). What does it matter? It’s like (to me) saying you can be black, but don’t wear your natural hair. What? What does it matter to you?

Black men really do have it bad, when we look to other black men to represent us. Why is it that black men have to be so 2-dimensional? It’s not even THEM putting us in that box anymore, it looks like we we build the boxes oursleves. I feel we are the last group to fully accept the varieties in which we come. Only when we accept oursleves can we grow as a culture.

B. Scott, do the damn thing, !
Erica Nicole on March 15, 2008 at 8:00 pm #

I also wanted to add that its bad enough that some ignorant people out there don’t like me or don’t want to include me in stuff because I am female and brown-skinned (YES SKIN COLOR IS A GODDAMN ISSUE!)…but what’s even worse is the constant hate that people who happen to be LGBT face. I think it all starts in the home, what you are taught at home is learned by you, so whoever teaches a person to hate from a very young age is responsible for that. Chickenheads I swear….
Cinema on March 15, 2008 at 8:28 pm #

Love Darian, Love BScott. Thanks Darian for the message and introducing me to B Scott on your website!

Like ms. jilly from philly said, “hate on me haters”…if you have haters, you obviously are doing something right!

Continue doing what you’re doing.
cie on March 15, 2008 at 8:37 pm #

Darian, very well said, you too are always such a breath of fresh air!! B.Scott you are the truth and the eballers just can’t stand it. Your differences are what make you the beautiful person you are, you’re just kool like that! These posts made me pull out my old envogue cd’s they need to put FREE YOUR MIND on blast over there at Concrete Loop! You brothers keep up the good work, keep making us proud!
Fatimah on March 16, 2008 at 4:57 pm #

E ballers are so so played out.
Fatimah on March 16, 2008 at 4:58 pm #

E-ballers are played out like the mohawk…which I’m wearing Saturday night. So maybe they aren’t played out. They are straight whack though!!!
Ms.NeeCee on March 16, 2008 at 5:59 pm #

Darien that was beautifully stated young brother. Both you and B are the positivity we need. All I have to say is……. The people who do the most complaining and have the most problems are the ones that aren’t doing a damn thing to help. Please continue to do what you do because you are touching so many people! I love it!
Pretty Wings on March 16, 2008 at 9:32 pm #

B. Scott,

I love your videos and the positive energy that you bring to everything that you do. Continue to shake the haters off cuz you know that your love muffins have got your back and will always support you…Love ya…
Double Kisses…