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  Melissa

  December 23, 2007 at 3:23 pm

  this is a very good question that you have raised Bscott. I believe that the answer is both. It coud go both ways. personally, both my parents died when I was a young age, and after that I used to be the meanist, craziest, baddest girl. I did not care about anyone or anything. I just had this attitude about everything and no one could not change that. After a while told myself that I could not be this way anymore, and I completely changed my life around and I am proud of myself now. I’m in my juior year of college,and I know what I want to become. I see myself doing what I want.
  Now my sister is the same way that I used to be, and it’s so sad to see her b/c there is nothing I can do. We can tell her,but it’s up to her to do. So it does come from your childhood, but you change it.
  This was a great video.

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  tyshawn102

  December 23, 2007 at 3:26 pm

  bscott its true the way your childhood goes does affect the way your adulthood wil happen because its hard to recover from pain because it happen to me. all the things tht happen to me in my childhood made me turn into a different human bein then i use to be me caue it hurts when babd thinggs happen an makes u believe that ur worthless and that ur the problem and i believe there is no way that u can just get ursel back togther again inless you feel something inside that can bring enternal change britney its hardbeing i hollywood always having to keep an image thats hard people constaly looking at u or up to for something thts hardddddddd.so i understand whats she going through shes angry shes mad at everybody for trying to make her be soooooooo perfect.

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  CocoaBrownSundae

  December 23, 2007 at 5:14 pm

  I know from personal experience what a traumatic childhood and teenhood can do to you. I have acted out in some degrading and embarrassing ways to cope with my pain as a child, teen, and adult. Most of it was conscious. I knew what I was doing most of the time but I just didn’t care at the time about myself, who I hurt or how other people viewed me. The main root of my actions was a lack of self-love and self-respect because I come from a family that shows each other no love, no support. I didn’t think highly of myself. So as a result I allowed people and situations to enter and affect my life in very negative ways. Like you once said “negativity breeds negativity”. I find that to be so true. Personally I think-unlke my situation most people act out subconciously, they don’t really know that they are acting crazy. Everyone has different coping mechnanisms. I ran to men, drugs, and sex to deal with my dissatisfaction with myself, my home, my dysfunctional family, and my povertized enviroment. But what woke me up was how my actions made people view me. Nobody took me seriously, guys didn’t respect me, everybody was talking about me, and basically thought I was a joke, not realizing that I was crying out for help. I am 24 years old and they are situations presently in my life that are “challenging” like the passing of my father and deceitful men that won’t leave me alone, my mother who is an alcoholic, and ignorant misguided people who are always minding my business but now I deal with situations like these in a positive way now through prayer and journal writing. Journal writing promotes self reflection, it helps me see myself and my present state of mind. It is hard to remain sane when you are a child growing up around crazy people. Britney’s mother is probably screwed up herself-who knows what personal battle she’s facing for her to become so detached and irresponsible to allow her daughters to humilate themselves. For example Beyonce, she has strong family support from her mother and father. If her mother and father wasn’t involved in her career and life in a positive way she would probably be as messed up or even more messup the Spears sisters.

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  Terron Glascoe

  December 24, 2007 at 6:10 am

  This is so insane. She is not crazy. She’s just stupid. Maybe if people would give her some personal space for a minute she could recover. Imagine if a whole bunch cameras stalked and hounded at us around everyday for years without our control. We would go nuts too. It’s like people taking randoms pictures of you when your not ready. wouldn’t you hate that! Oh and by the way Jamie Lynn is not the only 16 year old with a baby. People need to calm down, live their own lives, and stop worrying about celebrities all the time.

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  Karma

  December 24, 2007 at 10:32 am

  I definitely believe that our childhood experiences shape our adult lives, and that we carry baggage from negative childhood experiences into adulthood.

  I think that people who take advantage of the support and resources available to them(family support, peer support, therapy, etc.), are sometimes able to move forward more smoothly.

  Those that are resistant to help (out of stubborness, denial, or messed up priorities)and those who don’t know where to turn to for help, may have a harder time getting their ‘ish’ together.

  All in all, like B. Scott said, everyone is different and will therefore respond to situations differently.

  I’ve also been through some ‘ish’ in my life and my mom will sometimes use Oprah as an example, and tell me that I should “Move forward, see it as strengthening…”, whatever. It’s easier said than done.

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  KR

  December 24, 2007 at 11:03 am

  I don’t believe in this monkey bull. People are able to choose to be a product of their environment or not. As adults you need to learn how to learn from other peoples’ mistakes, period. If your parents were drug addicts then don’t be one. If your parents were whores with barely a high school education then close your legs and get a college degree.

  You don’t have to harbor your environmental mentality because that is where you are from. You can find a mentor in someone somewhere to better yourself. I know I did.

  Britney is being her true self and that is all it is. Just because you put garbage in an expensive trash can doesn’t mean it makes it more valuable than trash in a cheap one. Trash is simply that.

  Britney is choosing to be her trashy true self and it is making people angry because they were bamboozled. I always thought she was trashy but I thought she was trying to better herself and I was happy for her. But right now she is a walking cliche’. Just choose one.

  She is done and done and people with money have already written her off as trash. Where is Madonna to snatch a knot in her arse? She is supposed to be her mentor.

  I would love to see her be fake again but I’m afraid she has shown her true colors too much. Kevin Federline and all of those antics make perfect sense. Now look at her sister and mother who sold the rights of the story like it was something major just to make money. I swear. The wizard’s curtain has fallen, the bones are out the closet, the lipstick wearing pigs are a dancin, need I go on….

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  kim

  December 24, 2007 at 12:26 pm

  I think the Spears girls are suffering from lack of attention from daddy. Fathers are soooo important for girls no matter what anybody says. Your first relationship is with your dad and sometimes women spend their whole lives trying to get the love and attention they never got from their daddies. Now I would have thought that having children would have grounded Britney but it seems like it did the opposite. I think she was really in love with KFed and when that relationship ended she seems to have fell apart, again looking for love and approval. As for Jamie Lynn same thing, 19year old boy only want 1 thing from 16 year old girls. Also, the mother may have some daddy issue from her own childhood…it just seems like a bad cycle. They need to get it together and have some family counseling to save the next generation. The sad part is Britney can still save her career if she focuses more, some folks was waiting for her CD like crack (LOL). I feel bad for her boys because no matter how young they are kids know when something ain’t right…

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  karen730

  December 27, 2007 at 9:54 am

  I just love you♥
  And yes your child hood can reflect in your present life, butttt and yes there is a but! The bad things in our lives are what shape us and give us character. The difference is when other child hood stars like Drew Barrymoore, is media wasn’t as sad and focus as they are now. The media make up stories before they even happen. Everytime Britney even do so much as to sneeze theres a million photogs there with stories ready to go, “oh Britney must be on drugs, she’s coughing and sneezing all over the place like she’s on something”. If the girl is bloated like every woman goes through its headlines ” Britney preggors with child number 3, and Taye Diggs is the father because they was both seen in the same state together”. I honestly think that if previous child hood stars form the 70’s and 80’s had people following them around (leagally) then they wouldn’t have been able to pull them selves together. If Drew Barrymoore had half a country blogging about her drug addiction… I doubt she’d be the person she is today.
  The media has turn Britney into the person she is, I can’t imagin a life where I have absolutly NO PRIVACY. People taking bets on my marriage, on when I’m going to kill myself. That had to be the saddest day in history, because the same media and entertainment sources that was joking and saying Britney’s going to kill her self, be the same ones saying how she’s a bad influence. Well what kind of influence are you being placing bets on someones life? I don’t completly blam her mother… and I don’t completly blam her… I blam nosy people like us who rush to find out whats going on in someone elses life to the extent that we do. Its not enough to pick up a magazine, we have to read it on the net, have radio shows about it, blog about it, video blog about it.. and so on and so on.

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  BenzTwinSisterMercedes

  December 27, 2007 at 8:02 pm

  all i have to say is…
  when Beyonce’s lace front start to slippin’, the blogesphere will start tippin!
  let’s call Rev. Alicia right now!