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September 26, 2007 In Cased You Missed It: B. Scott On “The Worst Thing About Being Gay”
Update: Love muffins your support and comments touched my soul! Thank you for taking me higher! New video to come.. stay tuned!
I had to get this off my chest love muffins! I hope you understand.
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Tyrakills
September 25, 2007 at 7:54 pm
Keep your head up!!!
Divalicious
September 25, 2007 at 8:04 pm
You’re an amazing person…….
alex
September 25, 2007 at 8:17 pm
LORD, that hit home with me BSCOTT… Thank you for opening up to us. I am gay also and not everyone in my family accepts it.. It’s hard, but you know life really does go on. I still love them like you said and I hope one day God can bridge the gap between my family and I. This blog really helped me. THANK YOU!!!!
Kori
September 25, 2007 at 8:25 pm
thanks for sharing this with us. so personal and raw.
Golden Girl
September 25, 2007 at 8:29 pm
Oh B, Thank you soo much for opening up. I visit your site daily. Anyway, I just wanted to say that you have touched a lot of people with this video today. I’ve been going through some things and had to do a double take when I hear you explaining the topic of today’s video. I’ve also come to a conclusion. The world just isn’t ready for us!!! First of all: being pretty ain’t never been easy, so when you start adding pretty+black, or pretty+black+gay, oh, Boo Boo you’s just askin’ for trouble!LOL! Keep your head up B!
ron
September 25, 2007 at 8:30 pm
You are awesome!!!
Every morning,I tune in to your blog to get inspired and uplifted for the day!!!
Please keep the video blogs coming.
Thanks!!!
Twirl Girl
September 25, 2007 at 8:46 pm
BScott, you have such a beautiful spirit. Don’t ever let anyone try to convince you otherwise.
kim
September 25, 2007 at 8:53 pm
Keep your head up. I’m not gay but I still have family issues. It is so sad when those who are the closest to you can;t be happy for you and accept you for who you are. However, as my girl Jill Scott says’ “hate on me hater, cause I’m going to do me”. Life is all about intention and as long as your intentions and heart is in the right place then even though it hurts you, you have to not let it get to you:) it is really his loss, because you are such a cool person! Only because of the kids, I would maybe drop him a note nothing big and just see if he responds after that the ball is in his court, let it be…
stankky
September 25, 2007 at 9:02 pm
i can tell you’re a great person on the inside. and ur definetly one on the outside as well. this video touched me. and although i havent gone through this, i can see where you’re coming from. i don’t see why people can’t accept gays, or anything else their not, or at least “normal” i find it ridiculous. this world has so much to offer and we were made differently. sometimes, the people you love most, aren’t meant to be with u on the other journies of life there are for u. u noe that quote, “people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” i believe that’s a true. no matter who it is, if it’s meant to be, then it will be. but then again, sometimes u just need to fight ur way through what you want. and even if it doesn’t work out, u at least noe, that you’ve tried. keep ur head up! i love gays! i think they’re so adorable. and they really are one of the coolest people out there. i’d love to have a gay friend. i wish everyone wouldn’t be so scared adn this world can accept all that comes in a better way. Take care! xoxo
J
September 25, 2007 at 9:14 pm
Mariah says:
They can say
anything they want to say
try to bring me down
But I will not allow
anyone to succeed
hanging clouds over me
And they can try
Hard to make me feel that I
Don’t matter at all
But I refuse to falter in what I believe
or lose faith in my dreams
Cause there’s
There’s a light in me
That shines brightly.
They can try,
but they can’t take that away from me.
Oh, they
They can do, anything they want, to you.
If you let them in.
But they won’t ever win,
if you cling to your pride and just push them aside.
See I, I have learned
There’s an inner peace I own.
Something in my soul,
that they cannot possess.
So I won’t be afraid,
and the darkness will fade.
Cause there’s,
there’s a light in me.
That shines, brightly. yes
They can try, but they can’t take that away from me.
No, they can’t take this,
precious love I’ll always have inside me.
Certainly the lord will guide me,
where I need to go.
Oh, oh, they can say.
Anything they want to say.
Try to bring me down.
But I won’t face the ground,
I will rise steadily,
sailing out of their reach.
Oh lord, they do try.
Hard to make me feel, that I.
Don’t matter at all.
But I refuse to falter,
in what I believe or loose faith in my dreams.
Cause there’s, theres a light in me.
That shines, brightly…..yes
They can try, but they can’t take that away from me.
From me….
I say, believe that!
mimi
September 25, 2007 at 9:48 pm
B. Scott. I love you. You have a purpose and I’m so glad that you know that. You are truly uplifting. THANK YOU for being who you are.
la2atl
September 25, 2007 at 10:42 pm
Hats off to you B for this video. I love the realness and genuine spirit you gave when you talked about real life and how it can affect us emotionally. Your positivity is what keeps this site on the rise. Thanx love biscuit!
Kevin
September 25, 2007 at 11:03 pm
Wow. I totally understand and can relate to you. Your strength is admirable! It is a hell of a price to pay in order to fulfill your destiny and to be the best B.Scott you can be. I pray that you continue to touch lives in the truly unique way that you do, and find solace knowing that it was worth it– no matter what. I’m glad you’re not bitter, but you’re getting BETTER! Much love baby!!
KristopherNexus
September 25, 2007 at 11:06 pm
Thats real talk B! I know exactly how you feel on every point! Is your brother mixed or fully white? Not that it matters but it would be nice to know. Much love to you B.
Mario
September 25, 2007 at 11:09 pm
Thanks for posting this! It really nice to know i’m not the only one going through this! This is really a lot of motivation to move on.
Tree
September 25, 2007 at 11:41 pm
I love you, B. Never stop.
bb
September 25, 2007 at 11:43 pm
You know, it’s the same thing no matter what makes you different. I get crap from my family all the time because I’m introverted and removed from them. When I was litte, I was treated differently. I even recall my grandma saying that she “didn’t know where I came from” because I was so “strange” I guess. So don’t feel like it’s because you are gay, it’s because you are different.
bb
September 25, 2007 at 11:44 pm
p.s. I’m the only one of my group of relatives all around the same age that is currently in college and not still living at home. Guess I AM different.
DAWN BROWNE
September 25, 2007 at 11:47 pm
I REALLY WANT TO REACH OUT AND HUG YOU RIGHT NOW. THERE’S A SONG THAT SAYS “I CANT MAKE YOU LOVE ME”, IF YOU DONT. I’VE LEARNED TO UTILIZE THIS STATEMENT. I HAPPEN TO BE STRAIGHT WITH FAMILY THAT HAD SECRETS AND REASONS WHY THEY REJECTED FAMILY. MY GRANDMOTHER WENT IN HER GRAVE NOT MAKING RIGHT HER WRONGS AGAINST MY MOM AND HER SISTERS, ABANDONMENT AND REJECTION. SO IN MY LIFE IF PEOPLE ACCEPT ME AND TREAT ME LIKE FAMILY THEN TO ME THEY ARE MY FAMILY, ESPECIALLY MY FRIENDS. INDEED IT HURTS TO KNOW SOMEONE YOU GREW UP WITH WOULD DO THAT FOR ANY REASON. YOU SEEM TO HAVE A MAGNETIC PERSONALITY, SO THOSE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE, EVEN BRIEFLY WHO SHOW YOU LOVE DONT DISREGARD THAT BECAUSE THEY ARENT FAMILY. TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE THAT SPENT MISERABLE YEAR BELIEVING “THE ONLY THING I CAN COUNT ON IS MY FINGERS”. NOW IM CERTAIN IN MY FAITH THAT GOD LOVES ME AND ITS UNCONDITIONAL. BELIEVE AND BE STRONG LOVE MUFFIN.
bb
September 25, 2007 at 11:52 pm
p.s.s. I’ve never understood homophobia. I have arachnophobia and claustrophobia but that’s because I don’t want to die of a spider bite or be crushed to death. That makes sense. Are gay people going around biting and/or crushing people to death? Should I be afraid? AM I MISSING SOMETHING!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!
Ian O
September 26, 2007 at 3:44 am
I don’t think I’ve nodded in agreement so much in my whole life!! Going through the same sort of drama with members of my family and it’s got to a stage where I’ve just been like “I can’t do anything about it. Everybody has a journey in life and this is mine. If you don’t want to be in it, see ya!” It’s hard, but if we’re not happy; how can we make anyone else happy?!
Cynthia
September 26, 2007 at 4:16 am
It hurts when you are not accepted by society.When people tend to label you as not normal, what is normal anyway.As long as you surround yourself with positive people, people who accept you for who you are and let you be yourself around them. You can’t please everyone in life, the most important thing is to please your own self.Like you said love muffin, ‘we only have one life to live….’Be strong and always make sure you come first in your life….*double kisses*
PARIS
September 26, 2007 at 4:24 am
Im actually in tears. There is nothing better in this world than self love, i felt like you were me talking about men in relationships saying im too fem and too this. Because of friends in my head like you I know being light skin, thin, curly, and FAAAAAAB, everything is gonna be ok. I hope everything works out with you and ya bro he doesnt know what he is missing by not being in your life. Why? Cause your B SCAUUUUUTTTT. hehe much blessings
BJ
September 26, 2007 at 5:38 am
Hi B.
I am very proud of you for sharing this. It takes a strong person to tell the world how you feel, knowing the people you speak about may actually see it. I understand you situation all too good. You sharing this video, I’m sure will help someone get through some of the same issues. Yes this is one of the bad things about being gay but the great thing is you are strong enought to get yourself through it. As you said toward the end. All you need is god’s love and love for yourself. Well I love you my fellow friend. MMHMMMMM
The Beautiful One
September 26, 2007 at 6:48 am
You are a wonderful and beautiful human being.
In the end, like you said, what matters most is God’s love for you and the love that you have for your self.
I hope that one day the rest of your family will see what we all see on the regular, a great person.
Nikki
September 26, 2007 at 7:07 am
Awww…We Love You B. Scott!!!
vampymsb
September 26, 2007 at 7:31 am
I think it was Elenor Roosevelt that said you are the only one that can allow someone else to make you feel bad about yourself. You are FABOU!!! You just remember that, surround yourself with all fhose who love you, for the wonderful human being that you are. Anyone who cannot see you for how wonerful you are is just not worth your time. I had to cut 3/4 of my family off a few years ago (different reasons) and I have never been happier! Much Love to you!
tellytellz
September 26, 2007 at 8:07 am
firstly, ditto 2 everything every1 else said… i always rememba that quote: those who mind DONT matter & those who matter dont mind, we are ALL made in god’s image so that means that u are EXACTLY who ur supposed 2 b…ppl r always scared of those who r diff. right scared of the unknown 7 what they dont understand… well y’kno what some ppl arent meant 2 understand.. u continue 2 b exactly who u r…the person that soooo many of us love(& im in N.Y & all my friends love u 2, so ur love is nationaly baby), i swear u embody strength..im straight but i related 2 A LOT of the things u said, & esp the part oabout self-love & Gods love bein most important… u prolly think u have an idea about how many ppl love u & r inspired/uplifted by u, but honestly u have NO idea…. we love u 4 ur high cheek bones, ya complexion, ya double kisses, ya curls, ya bright ass smile & everythin on the inside that u show us on a daily….. u be who u r..always…. the world may not b ready 4 u (/us) yet but htats 2 bad cuz ur HERE….& ur here 2 stay..LOVE B!!!!!
tellytellz
September 26, 2007 at 8:07 am
*love u B*
Shiloh
September 26, 2007 at 8:50 am
such an amazing video! thanks for sharing, and yeah, I’m in tears right now, cause I can relate. Stay strong, take us higher Lord!!
fatblkboy
September 26, 2007 at 9:47 am
i know that everyone else has said the same thing, but you are an amazing person. i’ve never been captivated by anyone so instanly before. i know that we’re not your natural family but we do all love you. not surprisingly, im struggling with a similar issue. my family knows but we just don’t talk about it. my dad is the pastor of a church and i’ve actually heard him pray for my “deliverance” before. i know he cares but i think it’s only because he has to? luckily i have a few close friends and jesus, who in spite of what other folks say loves me unconditionally. Stay strong my friend!
supergirllie
September 26, 2007 at 9:52 am
Awww you are a wonderful person and if your brother can’t see that then its his loss. you’re a great guy and people do need to get over race and sexuality or whatever! who cares right! Keep your head up and keep smiling!
ART
September 26, 2007 at 10:31 am
One of the best things anyone has ever said to me regarding this very situation: “Rememeber that it took you 20 some years to get use to and accept your sexuality. Your loved ones are now going through that same journey. Time is really the best healer. In time, they will be able to embrace you as you have embraced yourself. People can really surprise you.” And I have to say people, especially my family, is continuing to surprise me. We’re still working on my dad, but that’s a whole different battle ;p!
Dee
September 26, 2007 at 10:59 am
Oprah once said that we must make our own family when we become adults. She had to overcome some serious obstacles and look where she is today. You have a god given purpose to focus on and you must not get off track. Do not let the devil come in and steal your joy and prevent you from receiving your blessing. Perhaps you should write a book about your life as a gay man and the whole living out with it. My brother was gay and he was out since the age of 14. We all knew and we embraced him up until he past away in 1995. Now take a look at all of these comments and create a new family honey. You need a brother, sister, friend and associate, get those prayers to the lord and he will take you higher than you can ever ask for or imagine. I hope for the best and you take these words of encouragement from your readers/fans to heart. Please don’t try to figure it out anymore, you don’t want to waste your precious gift nor life trying to figure out why a family member/friends/others are not in agreement or acceptance of your lifestyle. Do you honey and enjoy being the beautiful person that you are! Now double kisses****double kisses***now take yourself higher!
) smile…breath…give yourself a facial, pedicure and sit in the bathtub with a cocktail and nice soothing music in the background. Cry if you have to but don’t let it deter you from moving on with the zest for life of the BScott that we have come to love to visit everyday! It will be his lost you know. As for neices and nephews, visit a sick ward at a children hospital and watch the smiles on their face because someone took the time to visit them.
Divalicious
September 26, 2007 at 11:38 am
Hey B – take your video, as well as all these comments and send them to your brother. Looks like you have a hell of a lot of people who love you!!! Double kisses!!!!
Dindi
September 26, 2007 at 11:52 am
B. Scott I absolutely love you from the time I saw the first video I knew you were special . I would love to have you as a personal friend.I applaud you for sharing.You made this video not only about being gay but about being different or not living up to what someone else wants us to be. That is such an important lesson for so many people. Thank you for that. Know that you are loved by many and even though we are not blood we are your global family.You enrich our lives everyday and make this world (especially mine) a better place. Whether by shedding knowledge or just making us laugh. You keep doing you.I wish you all the joy and happiness you can possibly stand. Double Kisses :-*
Nineteen69
September 26, 2007 at 12:25 pm
B. Scott….don’t let snyone steal your Joy. You can only be you. If he (or anyone else) can’t love you for who you are…so be it.
I am not gay so I can’t relate to this actual pain. However, I do feel this is a human issue. Most of us have family or loved ones who can be disapproving and judgemental. It usually means they are insecure with themselves and their own lives.
Stay positive and thank you for such an important daily message. YOU ARE FABULOUS!
Charisma b.k.a Charismaticdiva81
September 26, 2007 at 12:36 pm
YOUR BROTHER IS MISSING OUT!!! YOUR A WONDERFUL PERSON! I WISH YOU WERE MY BROTHER!
B n DC
September 26, 2007 at 3:18 pm
B
Thank you for the realness… You are so right….. When it comes down to it you only really have yourself.
Remember that its your brothers issue not yours…. He may come around, he may not…. and you cant control it… You can only live your life the best way you know how….
The only thing I tell you is reach out to your Niece and Nephew… let them know YOU are there . Don’t let your brothers ignorance get in the way…..
mo
September 26, 2007 at 5:52 pm
Thank you for sharing. It was heartbreaking to hear about you and your brother. But I do admire and respect that you had nothing bad to say about him and still love him. Just shows what a class act you are! Be strong! And know that so many people out here think you are amazing!
Pretty Wings
September 26, 2007 at 9:41 pm
I would have to ditto all of the things that people have said…you project such great positive energy…Your brother is truly missing out but one day he will see that. Keep your head up… When you get serious…you drop the truth…same as when your joking…Your love muffins love what you do and I know that I always look forward to seeing your video blogs as well as visiting this site on the regular…
Mperfectlyflawed
September 26, 2007 at 9:57 pm
Go on B !! u r Bomb… and i hope everything works out 4 u
Lana
September 26, 2007 at 10:39 pm
Oh B., it makes me so ad that all of you family doesn’t see how fabulous you are. I love you! You’re such an amazingly grounded and intelligent person. All you can do is love them and pray for them. You can’t make people accept you and like you said, at times our family can be more cruel than the world can. Just know that God loves you and remember that prayer changes things. Just keep on being as splendiferous as you are. Your video blog entries add a smile to my face. You should have been a counselor or a life coach. I don’t go a day without reading your blog, even if I’ve worked a 12 hr shift and I’m exhausted. I have to get my B. Scott fix everyday!
Me
September 27, 2007 at 5:05 am
I don’t need to tell you to keep your head, because it’s already high. Just remember to ask the Lord to keep it there!
Websysta
September 27, 2007 at 10:53 am
What a powerful message! Thank you for sharing this with us. The message rings true on so many levels and breaks it down to the most important thing – be true to yourself….love yourself…be yourself! You continue to do what you do…Be YOU!
J_Luva
September 27, 2007 at 6:54 pm
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. You’ve really expired me to just go for it and say to hell with what people think and just be me. Once again, thank you from the bottom of my heart.